You've built a life most women dream of.

So why are you still letting a man determine how you feel about yourself?

You know how to make money. You've made plenty of it.

Listen, you are laser sharp when it comes to making huge life decisions and literally give zero fucks about anyone else's opinion. When it comes to pressure at work, your CEO hat is on and you eat fear for breakfast.

But when it comes to love… you suddenly forget who the fuck you are.

I know your dirty little secret. You're checking your phone every 5 minutes. A couple of days go by with nothing from him and now suddenly you "have standards" so you block him on Instagram — because the man can't text but he can lurk, and he doesn't get that kind of access to you.

You get a fleeting wave of relief for being back in control. But 3 hours later you're telling yourself "don't be dramatic" so you unblock him. Another wave of relief for "being the bigger person."

Now every morning you're checking your Instagram story views to see if his name pops up. When it does, you're suddenly reassured for about 2 seconds. Feels good right?! But then you are immediately pissed that he hasn't replied to you in a week.

It's an emotionally draining mess that no one knows about — because you aren't a woman who would accept bare minimum treatment. At least that's how you portray yourself on the outside… but on the inside you are beyond pissed that you can't stop thinking about him.

BUT who you are actually pissed at is…YOU. There is this non-stop deleting his number to re-saving it, then blocking him, unblocking him, and talking yourself out of the boundary you were so sure about less than 24 hours ago.

GIRL… you gotta GET A GRIP.

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But you don't and instead of taking back your power and de-centering this man, you:

For a moment

I want you to imagine…

  1. You wake up and your first thought isn't about him. You're not reaching for your phone to see if he texted. You're not checking his Instagram or your story views to see if he "still cares". You're thinking about your day, your plans, your goals, and all the things you're genuinely excited about.
  2. You stop negotiating the standards you've worked so fucking hard to establish. When someone tells you they're not ready for a relationship, you believe them. When their actions don't match their words, you pay attention. You no longer need your girlfriends, a therapist, and an 11pm ChatGPT session to convince yourself that you deserve better. You finally accept that access isn't commitment.
  3. You can actually enjoy the successful life you've created. You're sitting at dinner with your girlfriends, celebrating a business win, or lying on a beach somewhere beautiful — and you're actually THERE. Not secretly checking your phone, wondering why he hasn't responded, or letting a man who isn't even present consume every ounce of your attention.
  4. You can date someone you really fucking like without losing yourself in the process. You don't have to pretend you don't care by waiting 3 hours to text back. You don't have to lay wide awake at 3am analyzing whether you're being too much. You can express what you want, communicate your needs, and allow someone to show you whether they're capable of meeting them.
  5. You finally trust yourself to make decisions in love the same way you do in every other area of your life. You know what you want, what you're available for, and when something isn't right for you. You don't spend another six months trying to convince yourself that he just needed "more time."

The goal isn't to become a woman who doesn't need anyone. It's about becoming a woman who can love deeply without abandoning herself in the process.

I'm done losing my fucking mind
Most of my clients are just like you

You're the woman who has her shit together. Until it comes to him.

Sound Familiar?

Want to know the worst part?

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You're watching a relationship that isn't even giving you what you want take your attention away from the life you've worked so fucking hard to create (without him by the way).

You're tired of being the woman who can handle everything except her own love life, pretending everything is fine.

At this point, you don't even give a fuck about getting him back.

You want yourself back more.

Not because you need to become some completely different woman. But because you're ready to stop abandoning the woman you've already worked so hard to become. This is where I come in.

You want to know WHY you are still doing this shit when you know better — and how to finally stop.

The LAST thing you need is another fucking podcast telling you to "know your worth."

You already know your worth.

You're the woman who makes difficult decisions, follows through on her goals, and figures shit out when life gets complicated. You always have and you always will.

But somehow, when it comes to relationships, all that self-discipline goes out the window.

You know you should stop texting him BUT you don't.

You know you're settling for less than you deserve BUT you still settle.

You know this relationship is costing you your peace BUT you're so addicted to the high.

Yet you keep finding yourself right back where you promised you'd never be again. Waiting for him to show up differently.

So you read another book. Listen to another podcast. Journal about your childhood. Try no contact for the fifth time. With time you understand yourself a little better — but understanding why you keep abandoning yourself isn't the same as actually stopping.

This isn't about knowing better. It's about changing the patterns that keep pulling you back into the same relationships with guys who aren't your forever.

That's EXACTLY what we're going to work on inside Get A Grip, together.

When you get inside Get A Grip, you'll wish you hadn't waited another single day.

Look, Get A Grip is not where you're waterboarded with more mindset and awareness information on your relationship trauma, that leaves you knowing everything and still feeling the same.

Knowing information and actually doing something with it to stop giving fucks about this guy are two different things.

You don't need another therapy session where you spend 50 minutes unpacking what you already know… only to feel empowered for an hour and find yourself right back in the same spiral by 9 PM. That's why you stopped going — but you still feel like you can't breathe when you think about him (and you hate it).

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And then there's me

I'm Kaila.

I used to be really fucking good at getting everything I wanted. Except the love I actually deserved.

I knew how to make money. I was pulling in $10K–$15K months bartending, getting my MBA, and checking off all the boxes of what a successful woman was supposed to look like in her 20s. From the outside? I had my shit together.

But behind closed doors, I was repeating the same toxic relationship patterns with different men. Different face and name but same fucking story. I HATED it and… I knew better. I knew when someone wasn't treating me the way I deserved. I knew when I was compromising my standards. I knew when I was looking for validation from someone who couldn't even give me the bare minimum.

But knowing all of that didn't stop me from doing it again. So I did what every "self-aware woman" on the internet does — listened to the podcasts, read He's Lying Sis & Let Them, sat in countless therapy sessions. They gave me one thing: more awareness. At this point I could literally write a dissertation on why I was attracted to emotionally unavailable men. Yet here I was still abandoning myself for their approval.

Then in 2023, my mom passed away and the man I thought I was in love with broke up with me. I completely fucking unraveled.

I had spent so much of my life being the woman who could handle anything. Suddenly, I could barely get out of bed. Burned out, emotionally exhausted, and looking for anything that would make me feel better, even temporarily. Yes, even a margarita at noon.

Somewhere in the middle of all of that, I had a realization that changed the way I looked at my entire life: I wasn't even sure I wanted that man back. What I did want was ME back.

I started doing the reprogramming work that helped me change my relationship with myself. I stopped relying on external validation from a man to determine how I felt about myself. And for the first time in a long time, I felt like I was getting my energy back.

Here's what I wish someone had told me: You can have all the self-awareness in the world and still repeat the same patterns. Understanding your patterns and learning how to respond when your pattern is triggered are two completely different things. That's why I created Get A Grip.

xx, Kaila
The signature framework

Here's what you get inside Get A Grip

Six modules released over 90 days. Each module builds on the next.

01

Your Dirty Little Secret

You stop calling it "chemistry." You catch the pattern the second it starts (the phone checking, the story-view stalking, the back-and-forth bullshit) and you start breaking it.

02

Behind Closed Doors

We find the root fear that's been secretly calling the shots: ending up alone, never being chosen, or believing love has to be earned. Once we've identified the core belief, we hit it with the REPROGRAMMING STACK, so you stop just knowing better and watch the shiny wear off him.

03

The Body Keeps the Receipts

You release the anger, grief, and emotional energy your body has been holding onto from every heartbreak, loss, and experience that changed you. You stop dragging it into your business, friendships, and relationships, and make room for new energy, creativity, and boss-bitch decisions.

04

Navigating the Withdrawals

You stop letting withdrawal run the show. When the pull hits, you've got tangible things to do in THAT exact moment, so you move from chaos back to peace and keep initiating the life you actually want, not reacting to whatever he does next.

05

Living Proof

This is where it gets real. You take the actionable steps, keep the promises you make to yourself, and reinforce your new beliefs on a deeper level every single day, so trusting yourself just IS who you are.

06

Full-On Secure Era

You stop over-explaining, say no without drowning in guilt, and get fiercely selective about who gets access to you. You make decisions from who you are now, and it feels really fucking goooood.

What's included

Private coaching with Kaila

Three private calls

1:1 calls with Kaila

Because knowing what to do and actually doing it when you're triggered are two very different things.

Private Onboarding Call (15 min). We'll identify your starting point, get clear on what you want to change, and create your focus for the 90 days.

Two Private Check-In Calls (30 min each). We'll work through what's happening in your actual relationships and create clear next steps you can implement between sessions.

Mon · Wed · Fri

Private Get A Grip chat

Direct access to me Monday, Wednesday, and Friday to ask questions, navigate situations as they come up, and get support while you're putting the work into practice.

You don't have to figure out every difficult moment on your own.

Plus

Your bonuses.

Your Custom Reprogramming Audio

Created specifically for you based on your intake form, focusing on the beliefs and attachment patterns you're ready to change. Something you can return to throughout your 90 days.

Welcome Box

A Get A Grip mug & gift box filled with my favorite pampering goodies, plus a handwritten note from me to welcome you into your Full-On Secure Era.

Surprise Extras Along the Way

If I release any new mini-offers during your 90 days, you'll get access to them at no additional cost.

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Real results

She knew what she deserved. Here's what changed when she held herself to a higher standard in her love life.

Client message: restarted my personal training course, doing something for me Client messages about choosing herself over pleasing others

Once you're inside Get A Grip, that decision alone is your first win.

Your first piece of evidence that the bad bitch is back! From there, everything starts to land in place.

Over the next 90 days, you'll recalibrate the patterns, beliefs, and automatic responses that have kept pulling you back to a familiar hell, even when it's costing you your peace, your standards, and the love you actually want.

By the end of it, you won't be wondering if you've changed.
You'll be living like the woman you've always known you are.

xx, Kaila
Take me there

One thing you should know before joining…

Get A Grip isn't about figuring out how to make him choose you.

It's about getting to a place where you no longer abandon yourself trying to be chosen. If you're ready to stop analyzing his behavior and start changing your own patterns, you're exactly where you need to be.

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Get A Grip: Private 90-Day Experience

Six modules. Personalized coaching. Real-life implementation. And 90 days dedicated to changing the patterns that have kept you abandoning yourself in love.

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You're not here to become a different woman. You're here to stop losing yourself in the process of being loved.

The real questions

What does access look like once I join?

Get A Grip is a 1:1 90-day journey: six modules released over time, a private onboarding call, three monthly check-in calls, and private chat access Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. All sales are final once you join. This isn't a "try it and see" program, it's a commitment to yourself, and that's exactly the energy this work requires.

Is Get A Grip therapy?

No. Get A Grip is a coaching program, not psychotherapy — and it's important to me that you know the difference. I'm not a licensed therapist, and this program is not designed to diagnose, treat, or replace mental health care. What we do inside Get A Grip is coaching and subconscious reprogramming work focused on helping you build awareness, break patterns, and make different choices in your relationships. This work pairs beautifully alongside therapy if you're already in it. If you're experiencing a mental health crisis or need clinical support, please work with a licensed mental health professional.

What if I still love him?

You probably do. Loving someone doesn't automatically make them the right person for you. Get A Grip isn't about convincing you to hate him or pretend you never cared. It's about helping you stop abandoning yourself in the name of love. The goal isn't to stop loving him, it's to finally love yourself enough that you stop accepting less than you deserve.

How do the 1:1 calls work?

You get a private onboarding call (15 min) to kick things off, plus three monthly check-in calls (30 min each) scheduled one per month. All calls are 1:1 with Kaila, no group, no waiting your turn.

What if I'm scared this is just going to be another thing that doesn't work?

I mean… just because you had a funky experience with your ex doesn't mean you're swearing off love. What kind of life is that?

If you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, gone to therapy, and done all the things… of course you're wondering if this is just another thing that won't work. I thought that too.

But then I had one thought that changed everything… but what if it does?

And it did. Only because I finally stopped looking for the magical pill that was going to fix everything and started going hard in the paint changing the pattern. That's exactly what Get A Grip is designed to help you do.

The women who experience the biggest transformations are the ones who decide they're all in before they ever log into the first module, not because it's perfect, but because they finally said yes to themselves instead of waiting for certainty first.

What's it like working with you?

I am honest, direct, and deeply in your corner. I may not always tell you what you want to hear, but I'm always rooting for the woman I know you are underneath the pattern. If you slip back into old patterns, I'm not going to make you feel like shit about it, I'm going to guide you back to your power. Expect real talk and zero judgment.

Do I need to be single to join?

No. Even if you are still in communication with him — or still in the relationship — this is for the woman who feels deeply and wants to stop feeling the relentless pull to him so she can live her fucking life.

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